What is one of the first things that comes to mind when you think about needing to make changes to be happier in your life?

I'm guessing self-care is on that list.

Self-care has gained a lot of popularity as a buzzword in the last several years when it comes to personal development and improving our lives.

But if it's such an important piece, why are so many of us still feeling trapped, discontented?

Because self-care is in direct conflict with the way we are wired!

We are wired to put others first. We are wired to make sure that we are being a helpful contributing member of society (so that we don't get kicked out of the cave), no matter what we want or need for ourselves.

We're taught to put those needs last.

So it could be argued that self-care comes down to learning to put ourselves first. And yeah, that's part of it.

But then, let's say I go ahead and make the decision, "Today, I'm going to be my top priority, I'm going to make myself the top of the list!"

What happens then?

Well, if...

I spent last week on PTO, my first full true 9 days of vacation and not answering my phone and not working in YEARS!

It was absolutely amazing.

The first half was spent at home with my family for my birthday and the second half was spent in Cancun for one of my best friend’s weddings.

As I was planning the Cancun branch (really the whole week, but the Cancun trip specifically), I ran into an interesting situation that was hugely valuable as a reminder to me, so I wanted to share it with you.

If you’ve been with me long at all, you know I freaking love to travel. It is my passion in life.

And I had never been to Mexico (despite living so close to the border several times in my life…). 

So needless to say, I was unbelievably excited for this trip, especially when you add in the lack of travel or seeing people during COVID, and I was both traveling and seeing one of my favorite people!

Anyway, the wedding was at a...

Today, I want to share with you one of the biggest lessons I ever learned (and if I’m honest, I am still learning).

This past weekend was my birthday (my favorite day of the year, even on days I’ve worked!). 

When asked what I wanted to do, I decided to walk to downtown (the children would say I DRAGGED them out of the house…) to wander some of the shops and get out of the house.

While wandering, I saw a sign that spoke to me so much that I had to bring it home.

“The Beach: Where doing absolutely nothing is doing something.”

So true, right?

But it reminded me of a very powerful lesson.

When talking to several of my clients this past week, the subject of self-care came up over and over.

One client asked how she could fit in self-care when she was already so exhausted.

Yep, I resonate with that. I have a tendency to go go go until I’m absolutely exhausted as well, then I crash.

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Hey friend!

Last night we did a workshop on boundaries with the Happy Vet Society members. 

There was an underlying theme during the majority of the workshop that I wanted to share with you today.

During the workshop, we discussed several different boundary situations. We talked about how to respond when “friends” (aka random people) message us asking for free veterinary advice. We discussed how to handle constant contact and questions from staff on our days off (especially when there’s other docs in the building). We also chatted about setting boundaries around appointments, how many to see and what to do when short staffed.

And we found a common thread throughout these situations: Our need to people-please, and our guilt when we don’t!

Boundaries are one of the most important things we can implement to truly transform our lives.

But the thing that is so often missed is that there are two kinds of boundaries:...